According to Islam, marriage establishes certain rights to and imposes duties on both man and wife. One of the rights of a wife is marital companionship. A woman needs to be looked after by her husband for the personal, physical and social, points of view. She is also entitled to sexual fulfillment. When her husband is away from home for a long period, her sense of lack of fulfillment may weigh down heavily on her.

Once Umar Ibn Al Khattab, the second caliph, was walking through the streets of Madinah to find out how the people fared, as was his habit, when he overheard a woman chanting lines of poetry which described her sense of loss as a result of her husband's absence. He went to his daughter, Hafsah, one of the Prophet's wives, and asked her how long a woman could tolerate the absence of her husband. She told him that four months were the maximum period. Since many Muslims needed to be absent from home, because they were fighting with Muslim armies against Byzantine and Persian empires, Umar sent (directive) to all his commanders that every soldier, is entitled to have a home leave every four months. On the basis of this event, scholars agree that a man may be absent from home, in connection with his work or with some other purpose, for a maximum period of four months, unless his wife freely agrees to a longer period. Many workers and employees are in the same situation as you are. They choose to travel because they get better jobs and they are able to support their families better.

"When the hypocrites come to you, they say: we bear witness that you are truly Allah's messenger. Allah certainly knows that you are truly His messenger, but Allah bears witness that the hypocrites are indeed liars."

Since hypocrisy is all about pretense, it is very difficult to define who is a hypocrite. However, the Prophet, peace be upon him, has outlined for us some characteristics which are common in all hypocrites. He says: "Three qualities are the mark of hypocrite: he lies when he speaks, he breaks his promises when he has given them and he is unfaithful to his trust." (Related by Muslim). Another version of this Hadith, also related by Muslim, quotes the Prophet, peace be upon him, as saying: "If the following four characteristics are part of a person's character, he is a pure hypocrite. If one of them applies to him, he has a characteristic of hypocrisy until he abandons it: he lies when he speaks, he violates his pledges, breaks his promises and when he quarrels with someone he is shameless."

It should be added that these are indications of hypocrisy. When such qualities are typical of anyone's behavior to the extent that they are a part of his nature, he is almost certainly a hypocrite. They do not necessarily mean that he is a non-believer who pretends to be a Muslim, since a Muslim may have no doubts about the Oneness of Allah and the fact that Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was Allah's messenger, and still commit one or more of these actions.

When, however, they come naturally to a person, his behavior is that of a hypocrite. These Hadiths, then, serve as a very strong warning against such actions, since they are of the type of actions which a hypocrite does all the time. The Prophet, peace be upon him, is telling us in these Hadiths that a person who does this type of action habitually runs the risk of being a confirmed hypocrite.

When the Qur'an warns and threatens the hypocrites with severe punishments in the Hereafter, the warning is directed to those who pretend to be Muslims when they are not. It is they who will suffer the greatest punishment in the Hereafter, because throughout their lives they tried to subvert the Muslim community, pretending to belong to it when they belong to its enemies.